Can't come up with the answer, of course. No one can. I suspect it's different for everybody. But I've been with my wife for nearly 30 years. From day one it was a fixation, which eased over time. Thought of nothing else, etc. Standard stuff. My point though, is that till it happened I never believed it would or could. And I have a sneaky feeling - it might just be the same for you one day. At least, I hope so. All the best. Steve.

Now, this is something or she is something. While Shelly discusses my blog, she raises a very relevent question what is love. she presented a comment of her friend's that in love we devote our everything, I recall a writer who used to say love that need dedication of the kind where you have to lose your identity is not love, love that demands everyhthing of your's is not love -- doesn't that what we do in slavery? Devote everything? Lose our identity? To me that love is not love but slavery, and as I always maintain in my blogs and my thinking that two incomplete ppl complete each other. its not by losing one's identity like drop dissapearing in the ocean, to me love is like the meeting of sky and land at horizon -- its makes one of the most beautiful picture witnessed by the world, still, both earth and sky maintain their their identity and you also know actually they never meet and they meet everywhere. No matter where u g on this planet -- yuo will always find them meeting.
Love is not finding someone else or losing urself -- love is about discovering urself, as yo can see shelly love has taught me fines things about life. when everyone around me , including you, is living for himself, i m living for whom i love.

eevrythought every word every breath every blink is for her. but i also maintain who am i to define love. everyone has rainbow of his own, i have seen mine. u will see urs, only if you dare to go out when it rains and look against the sun -- yuo will see love

excellent peice of writing shells, truely such insightful and indepth peice that its inspired me to write something......just keep checking my blog i might write something after getting inspiration from u. Keep Blogging. All The Best.

Sur ;-)

Well 2 begin wid i'm really impressed by phsycologic determination wid which u've presented u'r blog.

Love....Sum Say its a " desire for beauty ", "An intense emotional attachment " or may be " Sexual passion "...

Sum still think its conceptually irrational...I feel d different ideas r due to our perception generally...One can surely feel if he/she is in love coz at that time u'r emotions get related to the other's persons emotions for no impressive reason or logic !
Love is an irresistable attraction so one cn alwayz feel it'z presence temporarily or permanently.
Love happens when u let someone dive into u'r heart or it happens when u get the worst feeling of u'r life of being incomplete n lonely...
Love does'nt let u'r mind cum into play coz itz not meant to be computed but felt widin. Affection n Expectations are mandatory in love but since no 2 people have d same heart deep inside...it often leads to a vast difference between reality n expectations often termed as "Thorns" or "misunderstandings". Adding a pinch of trust n desire to make things right though can really heal the damage.... Bitterness paralyzes life n love power's it back to normal form.....so 1 shud alwayz accept the risk if lookin for a benfit.
The final thought therefore is that the only way to retain love is to give it away. Love is an answer & existance in itself v juz can't deny n hence v shud take it as an instinct of the heart which when hits you, just makes u fall for it..!

I can't say i'm right or not but i hope that this echo of my personality answers some questions in u'r heart.